Suicide is a cry for help and remember that we can do something about it. This is the time when they need us the most and this is where we should pay attention more to everything they say and do. Suicidal people often feel hopelessness and helplessness. They are preoccupied with death and begin to give out sentimental things until to a point where they’re already saying goodbye. Let us then discuss ways to prevent suicide.
1. Take it seriously.
There is a general rule that says all threats to kill themselves should be taken seriously. This is not a time to joke around and ignore what they are saying. Most of the time, if they say they are going to do it, they will really do it.
2. Ask them how they plan to kill themselves then listen.
People who want to kill themselves talk about death often. So listen. Contrary to the misconception that it is wrong to ask further about death, it is actually something that’s best to do. Ask them what their plans are, when, where, and how they are going to do it. Most of the time, they will really talk about it. So listen.
3. Remove any immediate potential means of suicide.
Keep firearms, ropes and sharp objects such as knives and razors away from them. When means of suicide are readily available, the risk of actually doing it increases.
4. Never ask why.
Asking why they feel what they’re feeling or why they do what they’re doing is actually one of the worst thing to do. “Why” puts them in a defensive position and makes them feel like they have to justify their behavior. This can make them feel more hopeless about their situation so never ask why.
5. Be there for them.
Did you ever felt really sad but then your mom or your wife or your son comes along and then voila! – the sadness seems to go away? That effect goes the same thing when you’re there for a suicidal person. It does not totally make the sadness disappear but it helps. It helps to make them feel they are not alone.
It may not be an easy task to remember and apply these ways to prevent suicide especially when you’re already in the situation itself. But an attempt itself to know these things is already a means to show you care.